Cyberspace Relationships in 1999
What are Cyberspace Relationships and
why do they become meaningful or meaningless?
The unexpected encounter with a stranger can have a very strong
impact on our mind and develop into a meaningful relationship
when we discover the full meaning of such a relationship.
Most people will be delighted to find a contact that 'clicks'
the first time a stranger's letter arrives. The spontaneous surprise
resembles 'love at first sight' or 'love at first click'. (The
mind boggles over why one person's letter has more effect than
another and often so much to the point, when one meets personally
at a later date.) As a conclusion we have to believe the machine
has not taken away all our affects and something is transmitted
we do not have any control over, but are able to perceive in
the subconscious mind.
To become meaningful the mind will have to be free to express
The conventional physical 'non presence' invites this freedom
of expression and it is therefore most satisfying for the mind
of a person.
We might get romantically involved with the persons and go
through many stages of development in imagining and wishing for
a physical contact to confirm our instinct of understanding.
All sort of feelings we might have never been able to experience
in a purely physical encounter where the senses play the major
roles and where the personal natural comfort zone are the barriers
These emotional movements in our soul may be very productive
stimulants in our making of art and inspire us to transfer our
feelings to our work.
In meeting the person physically will confirm our instinct
of having found a person we feel very close to and we wish to
stay in touch. We may call it love of a person because we care
about the feelings of that person.
As artists we have far greater needs for this form of relationships,
because almost all art is a product of the mind and soul. The
falling in love is part of an artist's life and not limited to
the person but rather the art of the person, that touches our
soul and mind. Deeply understanding an artwork is about the greatest
satisfaction for an artist to encounter in another artist. This
form of relationship cannot be faked for any length of time.
If the feeling is not mutual and one is only looking for an ego
trip with another person, we can drop into the 'black hole' when
it is no longer important to keep on communicating. (Cyberspace
Most people do avoid any form of closer relationships with
another person in Cyberspace for fear to be dropped and misunderstood
or by protecting their privacy, which might be objected to by
any of their personal relationships, affected by another person's
contact in Cyberspace.
In this case considered a real threat to our private life's
security, we tend to overreact to our own feelings of being supersensitive
to the slightest neglect by another person in Cyberspace and
our presence in that space in time becomes meaningless with time,
if this was our main objective to go on the Internet in the first
place to find a soul mate.
Maybe it is because we are always searching for the all understanding
soul, most people find in 'God', that we expect more from a cyberspace
relationship then any regular relationship.
That the contact is enriching all our relationships is only
very few peoples true understanding of cyberspace were people
reach out to the world to feel the warmth of humanity and also
give some meaning to their personal presence in a true community
of people in this new environment we call Cyberspace.
Next in line of thinking is, would cyberspace prepare us to
communicate to a similar human species living on another planet?
The first sounds and images might be the tools of communication
to make the contact with such a world.
What language will the people still speak and understand?
Will it be meaningful then: what I am saying here about electronic
What will art be like 50 000 years from now?
Will it have any meanings?
What will they think about us?
Submitted to KEO project on June 23.1999